Category Archives: Girl Power

Vlog – ‘Skinny Girls’

Hey Viewers!
Here’s today’s video post! In this, I talk about some of my feelings on certain “Skinny Girl” behavior and the weight-mania that’s going on right now. Check it out!
XOXO

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Spice Up Your Life…With Feminism

In the year 2013, The Spice Girls have become an easy target for mockery.

The clothes, the hair, the attitude, it all epitomized the cheese of the 90’s. And don’t even mention Spice World.

HOWEVER- 
As someone who was a young girl during the height of their popularity, I’m here to tell you that they were way more than just a pop band. They are feminist icons. 

The Spice Girls instilled positive morals & sense of confidence in young girls all over the planet. And although they didn’t coin the term girl power, they certainly embodied everything it meant.  They maintained femininity and individuality and proved that ‘girliness’ and gender equality were not exclusive from each other. 
Their music promotes not only the demand of being treated well by men, but also unity and loyalty amongst girlfriends. Need I remind you – If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.

While their different personas (Sexy, Baby, Etc) can be viewed as male fantasy types, I argue that they made the point that girls are all different, but that our differences make us stronger – not separate us.

Along with highlighting girl power with their lyrics and personas, they exhibited it with their entrepreneurial actions. They didn’t just produce music and (amazing) movies, they had dolls, clothes, shoes, polaroids! They did it all!
In a time in my life when I was more focused on keeping my giga pet alive than any serious self development, they were embedding positive messages in my subconscious, setting me up with the foundation to be the feministic lady I am today. They helped me see the importance of friendship and girl loyalty, taught me to support other women and to demand respect from any man interested in me (not that that was an issue until I was about 17…). 

So thanks, Spice Girls. YGG.

Pink Empowerment

Do you ever do something that just completely rejuvenates your sense of self?

A decision that somehow, for whatever reason, makes you really feel confident that you’re on the path towards who you want to be?
Something that’s utterly gratifying, even though it can be simple as finding out what your favorite drink is, or buying the perfect pair of boots?

For me, that moment was dying part of my hair pink.

Having wanted to do this forever, and finally taking the plunge, this seemingly small act has jumpstarted my confidence & motivation, and given me a clear line of what direction I want to be headed in. 

I want to play Morrissey on the ukulele, and write a screenplay, and day drink.
… And not be as pretentious as that just sounded…
I want to visit flea markets instead of museums when I’m on vacation, and eat breakfast for dinner and to say fuck off to criticism.
I dunno. I’m rambling.
This whole thing just has me feeling pretty empowered.

I’m ready to let my freak flag fly.

I don’t want to second-guess my instagrams about whether they’re cool enough.
I did enough second guessing in middle school, & all it did was make me miserable enough to drown my sorrows in cafeteria pizza… No. Bueno.

I’m done with it.
I need to accept that some people may like me & some may not, that’s what makes the world go round. I’m a weirdo, hear me roar. 

I think we all need a little pink empowerment in our lives.
Do exactly what makes you happy (unless its heroin. or zip lining. Not worth it.)
Follow your inner compass. Spend 150$ on a massage from a shaman, get that tattoo, wear shorts in public. 

I feel like in life, and specifically in our twenties, it’s hard not to second guess & scrutinize every decision we make. Maybe it’s not just in our twenties, but since I’m not older than that I couldn’t say for sure.

Although, I do think our generation in particular finds itself crippled with options, & we need to focus on turning that into a positive instead of like a terrifying fate.
Things are not as permanent as they seem, and very few decisions can’t be undone.
We just need to take the plunge.
Dye the hair pink.

Contra(Inter)ception

Ok y’all, it’s time to get serious – Election day is in four days. FOUR DAYS!
If you’ve been following me, you’re aware that I am pretty riled up about the whole thing.
This election is one of the most crucial in our nation’s history.

Regardless of what you think of the rest of this post, or what side of the line you stand on, PLEASE exercise your right to vote. If you don’t contribute, you don’t get a say. 

I am incredibly emphatic about a lot of issues at stake in this election. Predominantly the social concerns. I guess I just think that all Americans should be treated equally. Crazy, right? Well, anyway, there are some issues that are particularly important to me that I want to talk about. The first of these is a little thing called “Women’s Rights.”

I dunno if you’ve heard anything about it, but there are a bunch of folks out there who think that they have the right to tell women of our nation what we should do with our bodies.
Hm.
Interesting…
You know, it’s hard enough being a modern woman without having to fight for basic rights to our own bodies. Do they have ANY IDEA how hard it is to be taken seriously but remain light and feminine at the same time? Or to balance career goals with traditional feminine decisions like marriage? Or to find a good deodorant?
Being a 21st Century Lady is tough business. 

We’ve come SO far. We have careers. We have Oprah and Tina Fey. We have spanx! 
And now these men are trying to bring us down!

The truth is, dealing with contraceptives is hard enough as it is! Out of the countless women I know, only a tiny percentage of them are even happy with the type of birth control that they have! Too many hormones, not enough hormones, too permanent, too impermanent, uncomfortable, unsafe, unsure. 
There are SOO many freaky factors and things to consider about what kind of birth control to use, that it is an incredibly sensitive and STRESSFUL issue all on it’s own! THEN we have to add the additional concern that we may not even be legally allowed to get it? OR in extreme situations get FIRED for using it? No. Fucking. Way. 

I live in Arizona, which is particularly conservative on women’s rights, even though, ironically, our governor is a woman.
In this state alone in the last four years, TWENTY-SIX bills have been introduced that diminish women’s rights! TWENTY-SIX!
On top of that, congressionally, Republicans are trying to ban abortion altogether AND end all federal funding for Planned Parenthood! 
By the way – 97% of the work done at planned parenthood is not abortions. It is contraception, cancer screenings, prenatal care and guidance, and more. Women NEED a place to go to get that kind of help. Because, while we’re at it- the conservatives ALSO don’t believe in Universal Health Care! So basically they are continually chipping away at any and all chances women have to get the help they need. Awesome.

In the end it’s not even necessarily about the birth control itself (even though it is), it’s about the fight for women’s rights and us getting total control over not only our own bodies but our own futures.

Ok. Whew! Enough about the baby-makers. Let’s talk equal pay real quickly.

For those of you who don’t know, THE VERY FIRST bill that President Obama signed into law is called The Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act. This law states that women who do the same job as men are required to be paid the same amount. Go figure. 

It is MIND BOGGLING to me that anyone, especially women, can support a candidate who openly says that he/she does not believe that women deserve equal pay for the exact same work. What. The. What?! There is NO other way to spin that than sexism on the brink of misogyny. HOWEVER I believe in Pro-Choice on all issues – including who women choose to vote for.

These issues are just the tip of the iceberg. 
The controversies involved in this election not only extend to women’s rights, but gay rights, immigration rights, citizen’s rights and so much more
Women have come so far, and yet there’s still so much to be done. The pill has only been publicly legal to the masses for 50 years. We haven’t even had the right to vote for 100 years yet! 
How can we respect ourselves until we require the public, the law and the government to respect us as well?

We need to elect a president who truly believes that All PEOPLE are created Equal. 
Period.


Funny Freakin Females

I’ve been thinking a lot about funny women lately. 
In anticipation of working on some “funny” projects (including an upcoming attempt at stand-up that has me petrified) I have been examining women who crack my shit up. 
I thought I would devote today to some of my favorite farcical femmes. 

Marion Davies
 Despite the efforts of her tres powerful lover, William Randolph Hearst, to keep her in dramas, this pioneering comedienne of silent film was so talented, Charlie Chaplin himself yearned to work with her. With an off-screen life as fascinating as her characters’, she did her fare share of comedies, and helped pave the way for future funny girls. 


Carole Lombard
With her bright eyes, mischievous demeanor, and great sense of timing, Carole Lombard was one of the queens of screwball comedy in the 1930s.
Katherine Hepburn
It’s no easy feat keeping up with Cary Grant in charm and timing, but Kate certainly managed to. If you haven’t seen Philadelphia Story, close your computer immediately and go get it. 

Marilyn Monroe
Always given more attention for her sex appeal than her comedy, Marilyn was effing hilarious. She used her persona to her advantage and formed her very own special sense of comedic timing that remains as iconic as her measurements.

Lucille Ball
Duh.
I’d like to take this time to personally thank I Love Lucy re-runs on Nick at Night for helping me develop my sense of humor.



Gilda Radner 
When you watch her sketches, it’s no surprise that Gilda was the very first person cast on SNL. 

Madeline Kahn
As a kid I thought Madeline was hilarious in all of Mel Brooks’ movies. As an adult I actually understand the jokes she does and I love her even more.

Carol Burnett
Bawdy, brilliant and brave, Carol Burnett took female hosting and parodies to a whole new place with her show. Two words: Curtain Rods.

Ellen DeGenerous
I love not only how hilarious Ellen is, but also the kinds of messages she works tirelessly to put out into the world and the sense of honesty and bravery she encompasses.


Tina Fey 
I love Love LOVE Tina. Tirelessly self deprecating and endlessly hilarious, Tina is my smart-girl comedy icon. Liz Lemon. Mean Girls. SNL. She effing rocks.


Amy Poehler
Sweet as pie but with a rough edge of unpredictability, Amy is Amyazing. Even if Kaitlin on SNL was the only thing she’d ever done, she would still be on this list.

Lena Dunham
Girls is one of the most bitterly funny, relatable shows ever on TV. When I’m not being totally jealous of Lena Dunham, I’m wishing I was her friend. Keep it up, lady.

I just realized that this post kinda got mad-long, which is pretty awesome since I’ve only skimmed the surface of funny women out there.
Thanks, Ladies.

F**k Yeah, Gaga

I have a very special weird little home in my heart for Lady Gaga.
She does some pretty freakin strange stuff, but that’s her thing and I love her and I love to dance like a spaz to her music.
Whether you love or hate her, you have to admit she’s got moxy.

Last week, Gaga was smeared across the tabloids being criticized for having gained a significant amount of weight. Despite the fact that she is still by no means fat, she has gained about 25 pounds on her tiny 5’1” frame, and photos of a recent performance in Amsterdam have popped up all over the internet with subtitles stating every rude weight comment you would imagine.
Many celebrities would lash out or ignore weight criticism, but Gaga has once again turned a situation around to make it into something awesome and empowering.

Gaga created a sub-section of her “Little Monsters” networking website called “Body Revolution.” In this section, Gaga wrote about dealing with weight issues her entire life, including such severe and scary measures as anorexia and bulimia. Along with this, she posted a series of pictures of herself in a bra and underpants to illustrate that she is beautiful and powerful no matter what her weight. She then urged fellow followers to share their own photos to encourage bravery and confidence triumphing over insecurities. 

Positive feedback and body photos from fans have been flooding in, with countless words of thank you’s, encouragement and support. Way to go, Gaga. 


With all the wretched weight-shaming that’s happening in our culture, I fucking love that Gaga is turning something that could have just evaporated or turned into a press argument into a way to defy conformity, connect with her fans, and make a serious comment on the cultural obsession with unrealistic body standards.

As a lass with some stalky Irish genes (And a severe addiction to Ice Cream, Carbs and Cheese…), I think Gaga’s statement is an important one. 
I love her for shaming weight-shamers, highlighting the importance of conquering insecurities, and using her celebrity as a tool to harness confidence and positive thinking in her fans, especially since so many of them are young girls. 

She has gone into the body image battlefield guns blazing and has further personally exposed herself to make a comment on something that is a major issue for everyone, especially women and younger girls in our society. 
Way to “inspire bravery.”
Way to “BREED some m$therf*cking COMPASSION”
Fuck yeah, Gaga. 

Julia Roberts, All Time Girl Crush

Julia Roberts – 
I. Love. You.

I’ve been searching for the words to say this, but I’ll just spit it out: You are my all time girl crush.
I’ve felt this way for as long as I can remember. 
I’m pretty sure you defined a majority of my developmental beliefs about feminine appeal. Watching your movies always reminds me to have fun and be myself.
That giant laugh, the huge hair that looks fabulous in any color or style, legs to kill for, I love it all. 

Your likability knows no bounds, and you are imperfectly perfect. 
I love that you can play anything from a prostitute to a hardware shop owner to a single mom. 
I love that you live in New Mexico with your cute little family and your husband of 12 years about whom you’ve said “I was born to be the wife of this man.”
I love that you are a trailblazer – the first woman in Hollywood to make a $20 million paycheck.
I love that you get more beautiful with age and won’t get botox: ‘Your face tells a story and it shouldn’t be a story about your drive to the doctor’s office.’
I love that you are generous and notorious for being a big tipper. I just learned that you gave your produce delivery guy a $500 dollar tip to replace the AC in his car. Rad.
I love that you are a fervent democrat and that you care about charity. I think its so cool that you are Unicef’s goodwill ambassador to Haiti and help with lots of causes.
I love that your joie de vivre is infectious, like in your oscar speech “I love the whole world.”
I love that you never gave up on love and that you are a romantic – “True love doesn’t come to you, it has to be inside of you” 
I love your megawatt smile that has been referred to as a secret weapon by directors and producers. 
I love that you’re the perfect combination of glamorous and down-to-earth.
I love your chemistry with all your co-stars, and that even in awful movies you’re still so likable. 
Basically, I love you… Did I mention that?